When Mother's Day is Hard

I am writing to those of you that find today is a hard day. I certainly do not know the “hard” that many of you will experience but my heart wants to speak to you. Some of you are estranged from your mom, or even if you are not, your mom may not have been there for you. You feel the ache, pain of a mom that maybe did not love you well. Maybe you never had the secure love and affection you craved. On the opposite end, maybe your mom is gone from this life and you miss her terribly. You wish you had just one more chance to be together.

Maybe today is hard because you desperately want to be a mom, but it has not happened. You have prayed, and cried and begged God for a child but, as of yet, your arms are empty. What if today is the darkest day for you because at some previous time in your life, you made the choice to have an abortion? You now see the reality; you know that your child is not here today, because of that decision. You carry that pain, no one knows but you and God. You live with that scar, and today is like a knife that reopens the wound.

What if today, your heart breaks because your child is a prodigal? Maybe in the truest sense, they are gone from your life. You may not even know where they are. Maybe you know where they are, but they have chosen to walk away from everything you taught them, everything you believe in. They heard it and yet said, “No thank you! I don’t want your beliefs, your lifestyle, or your God.”

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 “For this world is not our home; we are looking forward to our everlasting home in heaven."

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Maybe you have lost a child and everything about today makes your heart a little sad. You miss them so; you would love to hear their voice and hug them again. What if today is a day that screams to you everything that is not right about being a mom, or wanting to be a mom, or messing up or wishing it was different than it is? If that is you today, (it is a little bit me) then I want to speak a word of encouragement and hope to you.

I think part of what today can do is remind us that this world is not our home, we are passing through. “For this world is not our home; we are looking forward to our everlasting home in heaven. (Hebrews 13:14, TLB)  One day, much sooner than we can imagine, we will no longer be bound by the aches, and sorrows of this world. We will be changed in a moment. We will see Jesus face-to-face. “Behold, I tell you a mystery; we will not all sleep, but we shall all be changed, in a moment, in the twinkling of an eye.” (1 Corinthians 15: 51-52, ESV.)  We will behold the glory of the Lord. In that split second every single heartache, disappointment, regret, question, pain, and loss will be eternally removed. We will behold clearly; we will see what is veiled and dim for us now. Our hearts will be freed from everything that has ever bound or wounded us.

This is what awaits those who belong to Jesus. I love the fact that our God is one who understands our hearts, He longs for us as a mother who longs to gather her child. May God grant you a peace today that floods your heart, even as it hurts.

~Carla