The Spring Season of Marriage

It’s interesting that the spring season is one of the highest peak seasons for weddings. Why do you think that is? I assume it is for a variety of reasons but surely one of the top ones is the newness of the spring. Depending on where you live, coming out of winter to find the beauty of new life, trees, and the blooms of flowering shrubs is simply beautiful. The longer days of light and warmer temps make us delighted to enter this season. 

I don’t know if you happen to have gotten married in the springtime but even if you did not, you probably would like your marriage to feel like spring. Do you remember what it felt like when you were about to get married (whether spring or not), you felt like spring. It was new, exciting, and you had so much to look forward to. I bet you had a countdown on how many days until the wedding. What was on the horizon was just awesome. 

I certainly remember thinking the wedding could not get here fast enough. I was so excited to be getting married. I could not wait to live with my husband. I was looking forward to everything about married life (obviously, I was wearing my rose-colored glasses). It really was like spring, everything was new. Everything was fresh. I had never experienced any of the things I was getting ready to experience. 

If you are married then you are probably totally aware that it is not easy nor realistic that we will stay in the springtime of marriage, all the time. Life has a way of bringing the reality of most harsh climates into our lives. But we do want to think about what we can do to stay longer in the springtime of marriage. 

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Springtime will not last forever, life happens, and the course of our lives is never static, but we can and should do what we can to stay in the spring season and then return to it as often as we can.

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We will likely experience multiple seasons of spring over the course of our married lives. No, they will not all be the same, but they will have similar components of springtime. Maybe you have had a hard winter in your marriage. You have come through some trying times, but now you are finding your re-connection. You have experienced forging through the hard and now finding the sweetness on the other side. This is the spring season in your marriage. 

Enjoy the springtime; do what you can to stay here. This will involve intentionally doing what keeps spring here. Date nights, planning special times away (maybe for a few hours, or long weekend). Doing the unexpected, surprising your spring with something totally out of character. Spice up your sex life. (yes, order that lingerie, plan a special time together). Get creative and make certain you are keeping your marriage a priority. 

Springtime will not last forever, life happens, and the course of our lives is never static, but we can and should do what we can to stay in the spring season and then return to it as often as we can. Remember if you're not in the spring season, you can start to move toward it. Think about what you can do to bring a newness to your relationship, do what you must to move toward the spring. Get assistance if you need it. You don’t want to miss the spring, it’s too beautiful not to experience it. 

~ Carla